Conflict Resolution Training- When Personal Safety is an Issue
Conflict generally arises by having your needs, desires, perceptions and values challenged.
When a person feels that their values are being challenged they generally respond the strongest. Inwardly they feel their personal safety threatened and desire to stop that threat.
Surprisingly for most people, is that one of the reasons many attempts at conflict resolution fail is the desire to keep emotion out of the equation. People will look at content and make a decision on how to proceed with the conflict but want to disregard emotions. However, how we feel about our values and the emotional aspects of the conflict is of a very high importance.
When they are not dealt with, they can become a trigger during the process, depending on any history with the people involved or other unrelated incidences. Feelings and needs are a fundamental process and requirement of all people, men as well as women.
We can see the reason when we look at the three parts of the resolution.
Content: Is the issue to be resolved.
Process: How we talk to and treat each other. Allowing people to feel heard and acknowledged.
Emotion: How we feel about what happened. If we are angry, we shut down our thinking process and the conflicts rarely get resolved.
Many things trigger emotions;the history between the people or organization, the issue or other similar events.
People respond to conflict in many ways, some look for solutions and others just work on keeping it going. One of the most important aspects is not to jump into solution right away. Many times importance elements or ideas can be over looked. A secondary, yet highly important issue that that when we dont give people a chance to come up with their own solutions we disempower them.
It is essential when you want a strong working team or family bond to give the belief of trust in the other person to come up with his or her own solutions whenever possible. In business, there are situations where time is of the essence, and you need to act, however, done too often will lead to a breakdown in trust and performance by workers and partners.
Your beliefs about how to deal with them also affects the process.
For example do you believe:
My way is the only way.
I cant admit being wrong.
Talking shows weakness.
Its normal
These will get in the way of constructive, solutions and waste time and money.
Or if you respond by:
Pretending nothing is wrong
Verbally attack
Give in
Go over their heads
Silent treatment
Complain or Blame
Make jokes
These can lead to stress, destroyed relationships, and production breakdown.
There are different styles of conflict resolution to choose from depending on the situation.
1)Accommodation
To build the relationship When the issue is more important to the other person and relatively unimportant to you.
Challenges with; If you feel taken advantage of, you may become resentful. You may not get your needs met.
2)Avoidance
If there is a chance of danger. When you feel that another person is much more qualified for it..
Challenges with; The conflict may grow until it boils over. Relationships will remain superficial.
3)Collaboration
With important issues- where both sides have merit. To strengthen relationships
Challenges with; There is a risk of wasted time and energy on issues that are considered unimportant.
4)Compromise
When two or more goals prevent collaboration. When time is an issue and you need to reach an agreement right away.
Challenges with; You may focus on what you compromised. Problems may recur if you did not fully explore the issues to reach a resolution.
5)Competition
When quick, decisive action is require. When your core values are at risk.
Challenges with; May weaken relationships. Other may not agree to your plan of action and may try to sabotage
Each has its pros and cons and a time for using them. Most often, we must look at the situation and decide which would be most effective.
If you find yourself using accommodation all the time, you may be trying to show yourself as nice person and are at risk of becoming used. If on the other end, you are using competition most of the time, you may be seen as controlling and uncaring about the people you work with. This will destroy trust and production.
In all aspects, it is important not to generalize. Stating observable facts in a neutral tone with open the doors to resolution. People who feel attacked will close down and fight and solutions.
An example would be:
Instead of: Youre late again. Why are you so inconsiderate!
Try: We all arrived at 8 am and have been waiting for you. The last three times you have arrived at 8:30am. We need to start on time in order to meet our deadline.
There are many aspects to conflict resolution and some things seem like they are harder to deal with. However, in the end, when trust and respect are a part of your atmosphere, you will find greater success and achievements in all of your endeavors.
All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Top Rap Song
After months of email and posts, we've finally compiled and rated what you submitted as the top rap songs of all time. At first we tried to rank these, but we realized that due to the diverse nature of these songs it seemed unfair to do so. Depends on personal opinion, right? Wrong!
Thankfully we came to our senses and threw that notion out the window. Fair? Objective? What fun is that?
The artist that popped up the most on this list is Biggie Smalls (aka Notorious B.I.G.), followed by Tribe Called Quest, 2Pac, The Roots and KRS One/Boogie Down Productions.
Remember this is by no means scientific.
So here they are, your top fifty rap songs of all time. View album information, lyrics and compare prices by clicking the title. As always all gripes and complaints, cheers and pats on the back can be shuffled along to the folks who submitted these...you!
Enjoy y'all.
1. Notorious B.I.G. - Hypnotize
2. Geto Boys - My Mind Playin' Tricks On Me
3. Bone Thugs-N-Harmony - Tha Crossroads
4. Ice Cube - It Was A Good Day
5. Easy E - Boyz-N-The-Hood
6. 2Pac - California Love
7. Junior M.A.F.I.A. - Get Money
8. Warren G - Regulate
9. A Tribe Called Quest - Bonita Applebaum
10. 2Pac - So Many Tears
11. Cypress Hill - How I Could Just Kill A Man
12. Jay-Z & Notorious B.I.G. - Brooklyn's Finest
13. Dr. Dre/Snoop Dogg - Nothin' But a G Thang
14. Onyx - Slam
15. Public Enemy - Don't Believe The Hype
16. Mc Shan - The Bridge
17. The Roots - You Got Me
18. Notorious B.I.G. - Juicy
19. Wu Tang - C.R.E.A.M.
20. Mobb Deep - Shook Ones Pt. II
21. A Tribe Called Quest - Electric Relaxation
22. Black Rob - Whoa!
23. Bone Thugs-N-Harmony w/ 2Pac - Thug Luv
24. Notorious B.I.G. - Mo' Money Mo' Problems
25. Freestyle Fellowship - Hot Potato
26. Boogie Down Productions - My Philosophy
27. Boogie Down Productions - South Bronx
28. Digable Planets - Nickle Bag of Funk
29. Peanut Butter Wolf - Interruptions
30. Boogie Down Productions - Stop The Violence
31. Channel Live - Mad Izm
32. Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five w. Melle Mel - White Lines (Don't Do It)
33. DMX - Let Me Fly
34. A Tribe Called Quest - Find A Way
35. 2Pac - No More Pain
36. The Roots - Silent Treatment
37. Wyclef Jean - Gone Till November
38. Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five w. Melle Mel - The Adventures of Flash
39. A Tribe Called Quest - Jazz (We've Got)
40. Aceyalone - B-Boy Kingdom
41. The Roots - Proceed
42. Pharcyde - Passing Me By
43. Public Enemy - Black Steel in the Hour of Chaos
44. Push Button Objects - 360 Degrees
45. Redman - Can't Wait
46. Paperboy - Ditty
47. Dr Dre - The Watcher
48. Ugly Duckling - Journey to Anywhere
49. Word Of Mouth - King Kut
50. Puff Daddy - I'll Be Missing You
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Celebrities and Leading Magazines Rave About Hypnosis and Self Hypnosis
Oprah's O magazine published the benefits of using hypnosis for weight loss. Good Housekeeping, Reader's Digest, Sports Illustrated, Red Book, Psychology Today, Ladies Home Journal and many more magazines continue to publish the benefits of utilizing hypnosis for personal change. Once informed about hypnosis, you will know that it is safe, natural, and very effective.
Alot of people can relate to wanting something (exercise, diet, stop smoking, etc). Most are aware that eating healthier and physical activity are the key to weight reduction and a healthy lifestyle. Yet, they still don't do it!
Although hypnosis can stimulate fat elimination, it does not make fat magically disappear. During a hypnosis session, suggestions are presented to the unconscious mind that direct behaviors to change, which in lead to the weight loss and motivation. Imagine feeling that unhealthy foods are undesirable and you actually want to work out and be physically active. As the hypnotic suggestions implant and take hold, the body reacts and moves the metabolism into high gear.
Fergie quit biting her nails, and stopped a meth addiction with hypnosis; Samuel Jackson and Matt Damon stopped smoking with hypnosis; Jane Pauly was hypnotized on her show and explained the benefits of hypnosis.
Also, there are thousands of ordinary people out there, who with hypnosis, are making huge amounts of money, losing weight, stopping smoking, reducing stress and more. They are continually improving their self and increasing their lifestyle by using self hypnosis. With Hypnosis you'll succeed much faster in your endeavors than without it!
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Why You Should Choose Satellite Radio from Sirius and XM
A satellite radio is a special radio that receives signals broadcast by satellite. This allows the listener to follow a single channel no matter where they are because the signal's reach is not limited by station power and curvature of the Earth. Satellite radio, also called digital radio, offers commercial and distortion free, CD quality music beamed to your car radio or home stereo from space.
We all have our favorite radio stations that we preset into our car radios or home stereos, flipping between stations as we drive to and from work, on errands and around town. But when you travel too far away from the source station, the signal breaks up and fades into static. Most radio signals can only travel about 30 or 40 miles from their source. On long trips passing through different cities, you might have to change radio stations every hour or so as the signals fade in and out. Obviously, it's not much fun scanning through static trying to find something to listen to.
Imagine a radio station that can broadcast its signal from more than 22,000 miles away, and then come through on your car radio or home stereo with complete clarity. You could drive from Anchorage, Alaska to Miami, Florida, without ever having to change the radio station! Not only would you ever hear static interfering with your favorite tunes, but the music would be interrupted by no commercials. Welcome to the world of satellite radio....commercial and distortion free listening from coast to coast!
Car manufacturers have installed satellite radio receivers in some of the latest model automobiles, and electronics companies have launched several models of portable satellite radio receivers. Satellite radio is also available for the home for commercial and distortion free listening enjoyment!
What are the two types of satellite radio?
In the United States, there are XM and Sirius.
XM is a service in the United States that provides digital programming directly from two satellites (nicknamed "Rock" and "Roll") in geostationary orbit above the equator, and a network of ground-based repeaters. It is based in Washington, DC.
XM's business model is to provide pay-for-service radio, with commercial-free music channels, analogous to the business model for premium cable television channels. They also provide other data services such as weather information for pilots and weather spotters. In addition, they transmit coded traffic information directly to navigation systems using TMC technology. Their service includes music channels, news, sports, talk and entertainment channels, premium channels, regional traffic and weather channels. The XM signal uses 12.5 MHz of the S band: 2332.5 to 2345.0 MHz. XM's competitor in the U.S. is Sirius.
Sirius is a (DARS) service in the United States that provides streams of music, sports, news and entertainment. The streams are broadcast from three satellites in an elliptical geosynchronous orbit above North America. Sirius is based in New York City. Its business model is to provide pay-for-service radio, free of commercials, analogous to the business model for cable television.
Sirius' spacecraft Sirius 1 through Sirius 4 was manufactured by Space Systems/Loral. The first three of the series were orbited in 2000 by Proton-K Block-DM3 launch vehicles. Sirius 4 is a ground spare, in storage at SS/Loral's facility in Palo Alto, California. Sirius was previously known as CD Radio. The dog in the Sirius logo is unofficially named "Mongo."
Reginald Sharp is a writer and the webmaster of Satellite Radio: Sirius & XM
